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“Have you ever planted a garden? Have you ever tended to living, growing plants? As a child in school or as an adult did you help grow anything? Did you germinate seeds? Do you remember the process? Do you recall the time it took? You had to wait, didn’t you? Whether you liked it or not you had to wait.

People are in a hurry. They want everything fast and they want it yesterday. Well, some things just take time.  For everything there is as season. You just have to endure winter when it is upon you. It still takes the same amount of time whether you like it or not.

Patience Is How You Wait When You Have To Wait

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How you go through it though makes the difference. Summer is shorter typically because we enjoy it more. Most of us. If we enjoy something time seems to go by quickly. Too quick. The key to being patient, when you have to, is HOW you spend your time.

If you are having fun and enjoying it will go by quickly. If you are counting the days and comparing the distance between now and then it will seem to take forever. Waiting is completely dependent on you and how you wait. If you are desperate it sucks. If you are fulfilled while you wait it is a breeze.

Growing up as an actor in Hollywood I discovered everyone wants to ‘break through’ to ‘hit it’ to become an ‘overnight sensation’ this moment. Especially teens and twenty somethings. At that age we want it all!  In the film business, most everyone comes to realize, an overnight success takes between 10 and 15 years.

You Cannot Rush It You Cannot Push A Rope

It is not just a saying. It is a reality. Few pop. Most take years and years. Exceptions are child stars. Look at anyone’s credits on imdb and you will see most started with uncredited roles or one liners and worked hard at it, for years, before you or I ever heard of them. They put in years worth of work before anyone noticed. During that time countless thousands of others gave up.

Those who keep at it usually have success of some kind. Those who quit, well, they quit. If you stop and give up, then you stopped. If you keep going you can prevail. Being patient doesn’t mean you don’t do anything while waiting it means you keep moving forward and keep the faith. What you think and do while you wait is critical!

You have to believe in yourself and what you want. You have to keep faith in your ability to accomplish what you set out to do.  You have to know in your heart that you will make it happen in spite of the odds and the time it takes. You have to know that you can do it and will do it!

Don’t Give Up If You Want To Succeed Keep At It

There will be obstacles, set backs and temporary defeat but if you keep at it you can accomplish it. You can and you will!

Did you know that most successful people nearly gave up just prior to gaining their success? Did you know that prior to ‘popping’ most experienced their biggest ‘failures’?  They were nearly crushed and threw in the towel. Those who did not went on to success.

Did you know the first million seems the toughest to make? Do you know Researchers like Napoleon Hill, going back over 100 years ago discovered this and it remains true today. It always seems darkest right before the dawn. Out of chaos and calamity stars are born!

Stay Focused Stay Purposed Stay Passionate And Have Fun

Any worthy purpose takes time to come into being. Be absolutely clear on what you want and you absolutely want it no matter what. If you believe in yourself that you can make it happen then you can find legitimate means to bring it to pass. Stay focused! Stay purposed! Stay Passionate!

When you plant seeds they germinate. The seed must crack open and send out shoots into prepared soil where it can grow in the cover of darkness for however long it takes. It takes time and we can’t see it. We have to believe all is well and make sure it gets nourished. Then one day it breaks forth from the ground a tiny plant.

With continued nourishment it can continue to grow. Depending on what you planted it could be a flower, a food, or a giant tree. It all takes times. It takes whatever time it takes. Ultimately, it produces more seeds and the cycle continues. All the while we wait patiently there is activity. Their is growth and development.

Keep The Faith You Will Succeed 

Patience is a quality you have. It is HOW you wait. It means expect to win while you wait. It means do whatever is necessary knowing your efforts will pay off even if you can’t see the results today. Stay steady and stay consistent. Step by step you get there. Persist!

It means you can’t hurry or rush it. Take steps each day and nourish your success. Stick with it and you will make progress. What you planted you will one day reap. Don’t abandon your positive garden! How you wait is important! Affirm, acknowledge, stay positive.

Focus on the end result. You can glance at present circumstances or difficulty as you do your dash board indicators, while driving, but keep you eyes on the road ahead and keep faith in your heart. You may need to adjust your plans or take detours occasionally but keep on going. Know your destination and keep traveling to get there. You will. Be patient”

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Many people have big plans for their lives — either personally or professionally. But unfortunately, some people never achieve their dreams because they allow fear to stand in the way of their success.

Fear is a normal emotion. But while some people can shake off fear and move forward with their lives, others become paralyzed and miss out on opportunities.

If you’re tired of fear controlling your life, here are some ways to overcome your fears and achieve success.

1. Identify the Cause of Fear

To overcome fear and achieve success, you have to know exactly what you’re afraid of. Fear of success and failure are common problems, but there’s usually an underlying reason. For example, do you fear success because you prefer simplicity and you don’t want to complicate your life? Or maybe you fear success because you know others will expect more out of you.

2. Ask Yourself, What’s the Worst That Can Happen?

Fear can stop you from achieving your goals — maybe because you fear the unknown or failure. But oftentimes, our biggest fears never happen. So rather than let fear take over your life, ask yourself: what’s the worst that can happen? Sure, you might fail or not live up to your own expectations, but this isn’t the end of the world, nor does it mean you can’t try again and have the best comeback ever.

Some people don’t like to imagine the worst-case scenario. However, this can give the situation perspective, and you might see that the worst possible scenario isn’t that bad at all. For added confidence, you can also think of possible solutions, just in case the worst happens. This way, you’re prepared and able to handle any curveballs life throws your way.

3. Change Your Mindset

Fear isn’t going to go away on its own. You need to realize the power of fear. It can take away your self-confidence. And when you’re paralyzed, you feel powerless to change your life.

Push negative thoughts out of your mind, and remember that it’s okay to constantly reassure yourself. Believe that you can be successful, and tell yourself everything’s going to be fine. Even if things don’t go smoothly, getting rid of fear gives you the mental strength to deal with any obstacles. Plus, it’s easier to solve problems when you have a clear head.

4. Remember That Everyone’s Afraid

Rather than fear success, failure, or anything else for that matter, remember that everyone experiences fear at some point. You’re not alone. And the same way others have conquered their fears and became successful, you can too.

Speak to those you admire and ask about their fears. You may learn that they’ve been in your shoes many times. What helped them overcome their fears and conquer success? Take their advice and guidance.

5. Stop Running and Face Your Fears

Running away from your fears isn’t going to solve the problem, it can add to your frustrations and anxiety. Muster up the strength to face your fears, and you may realize the situation isn’t as scary as you thought.

You don’t have to jump directly into a fearful situation, ease into it or take baby steps. For example, maybe the fear of public speaking or leadership holds you back from getting promoted at work. The idea of speaking to a group of 50 or more people might send you into a state of panic. But you might be able to overcome this fear and build confidence if you start with a smaller group.

Ask your employer to let you take the lead in a departmental or team meeting, which might only be 10 people. As you become more comfortable, you might speak to a group of 20 people, and then 50 people. Before you know it, you’ve conquered your fear of public speaking, which can open the door to new opportunities.

Fear can take away your power. Rather than let fear keep you in the background, use these techniques to break free and move in the direction you want to go.

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Few people in the middle class really understand the mindset of the richest people.

After all, if they did, they would be among the top earners as well. We’ve all heard the remarks: Rich people are lucky, rich people had an unfair advantage, rich people are crooks, rich people are selfish, etc. These are mostly empty statements with little proof to back them up.

Yes, the rich think and act differently from everyone else, and the differences are as extreme as they are numerous.

Here are five things you probably didn’t know about the wealthy.

1. The wealthy are comfortable being uncomfortable.

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Most people just want to be comfortable. Physical, psychological, and emotional comfort is the primary goal of the middle-class mindset.

The wealthy, on the other hand, learn early on that becoming a millionaire isn’t easy, and the need for comfort can be devastating. They learn to be comfortable while operating in a state of ongoing uncertainty. The great ones know there’s a price to pay for getting rich, but if they have the mental toughness to endure temporary pain, they can reap the harvest of abundant wealth.

It’s not comfortable for a millionaire in the making to forge ahead when everyone around her is negative, cynical, and unsupportive, yet those who can push forward are rewarded with riches for the rest of their lives. Make a list of the five things you must do today that are uncomfortable but will help you build your financial fortune.

2. The wealthy dream about the future.

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Most of us grew up listening to stories of the good old days, when the world was a kinder, gentler place. The music was better, athletes were tougher, and business people were honest. This tradition of the masses is handed down from generation to generation while its purveyors have no idea how insidious and destructive it is. People who believe their best days are behind them rarely get rich, and they often struggle with happiness and depression.

The wealthy are future-oriented and optimistic about what lies ahead. They appreciate and learn from the past while living in the present and dreaming of the future. Self-made millionaires get rich because they’re willing to bet on themselves and project their dreams, goals, and ideas into an unknown future. Much of their planning time is spent clarifying goals that won’t be realized for years, yet they patiently and painstakingly plan and dream of what their future will look and feel like.

3. The wealthy are more confident.

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The negative projections and derogatory labels placed on the rich are endless. One of the most common is that the rich are cocky, arrogant people who think they’re better than everyone else.

The truth is successful people are confident because they repeatedly bet on themselves and are rarely disappointed. Even when they fail, they’re confident in their ability to learn from the loss and come back stronger and richer than ever. This is not arrogance, but self-assuredness in its finest form.

The wealthy have an elevated and fearless consciousness that keeps them moving toward what they want, as opposed to moving away from what they don’t want. This often doubles or triples their net worth quickly because of the new efficiency in their thinking. Eventually they begin to believe they can accomplish anything, and this becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. As they move from success to success, they create a psychological tidal wave of momentum that gets stronger every day, catapulting their confidence to a level so high it is often interpreted as arrogance.

4. The wealthy believe money is about freedom.

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Among the many money issues misperceived by the general public is the notion that acquiring great wealth is more about showing off than creating choices. While money certainly brings status, it’s acquired mostly for the purpose of attaining personal liberty.

It’s impossible to be truly free without wealth. The middle class is controlled by employment, government, and other entities with superior resources that dictate what they can and can’t do. It’s tough to make a moral stand for freedom when you’re worried about making your next mortgage payment.

Rich people can afford to stand up and fight oppression. They can afford to buy their way out of unhealthy work environments, bad bosses, and other unpleasant situations. They have the means to enlist the best doctors when they get sick, and they are able to make themselves as comfortable as possible when they can’t get well. When they want to raise money for business, politics, or charity, a few phone calls to their rich friends is all it takes. If they need more money, they throw a party or host an auction and charge $1,000 a ticket. The examples of how much money buys freedom are endless.

Start thinking about the freedoms you’ll gain when you are wealthy!

5. The wealthy carefully monitor their associations.

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People with high-level formal education like to associate with the academic elite. Physically fit people enjoy spending time with others who are fit. Religious people like to have fellowship with people of faith. And rich people like to associate with others who are rich.

Like attracts like, yet the wealthy are often criticized for having a closed inner circle that is almost impossible to break into unless you are rich. Successful people generally agree that consciousness is contagious, and that exposure to people who are more successful has the potential to expand your thinking and catapult your income. We become like the people we associate with, and that’s why winners are attracted to winners.

In other segments of society this is accepted, but the rich have always been lambasted for their predisposition to engage the company of people with similar financial success. Millionaires think differently from the middle class about money, and there’s much to be gained by being in their presence.

Set a goal to double the amount of time you spend with people who are richer than you. Who knows, it might just make you rich.

Steve Siebold is the author of “How Rich People Think” and a self-made multi-millionaire who has interviewed 1,200 of the world’s wealthiest people during the past 30 years.

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John Morgan is haunted by the prospect of failure. However, he tells his classroom of aspiring entrepreneurs, this fear might not be as unhealthy as your “clinical psychologist will tell you.”

We may like to peg successful entrepreneurs as overconfident thrill seekers, but such thrill seekers “never appear in Forbes,” according to Morgan, a professor at UC Berkeley’s Haas School of Business. That’s because, by and large, these individuals fail and never bounce back.

As a bankruptcy consultant in the 1990s, Morgan became intrigued by the “entrepreneurial gene”—the pivotal characteristic that determines an entrepreneur’s success. After Morgan became a professor in 2002, he began his research evaluating risk and its effect on decision making.

According to traditional economic theory, an individual is either skilled at handling risk, or not. But what if not all risk is created equal? In a recent study with Dana Sisak, assistant professor at Erasmus University Rotterdam, Morgan set up a lab experiment that simulated the real market. Participants were asked to choose between investing money in a risky venture or in a safer option. Morgan discovered that individuals were highly skilled at evaluating strategic risk (knowing when to enter or exit a market based on the projected value of the stock), but were inept at handling natural risk (understanding the role luck plays in their success or failure). Trial after trial, participants would exit the market after being unlucky and overbet when fortune favored them. They treated luck as a constant, expecting either good luck or bad luck to repeat.

Not satisfied with this conclusion, Morgan became determined to understand what separates “smart luck from dumb luck.” He found that individuals who fear failing, who are “loss averse,” fare better in a competitive market than those who focus on lofty goals. That’s because someone who fears failure is more willing to invest the resources necessary to justify their decision and avoid a complete flop. Meanwhile, reports Morgan, goal-oriented entrepreneurs have a tendency to “set the yardstick so far out of reach” that it becomes unattainable, leading them to “fail and torture themselves.”

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Just as loss aversion can motivate individuals, it also provides a model for helping entrepreneurs know when to throw in the towel. Morgan argues that individuals who are loss averse are more cognizant of how to measure failure and know when to quit.

Some experts estimate only one in ten Silicon Valley startups succeed. That means 90 percent of businesses must decide when to move on to other projects or cut their losses entirely. Knowing when to make this decision can be the difference between staying above water and hitting rock bottom.

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A British couple have just won £1m in the EuroMillions lottery for a remarkable second time. In doing so, they have beaten odds of more than 283 billion-to-one. So are they exceptionally lucky, and is there anything we can all do to increase the chances of experiencing such good fortune?

A few years ago I conducted a large-scale investigation into luck. I studied the lives of more than 400 people who considered themselves exceptionally lucky or unlucky. There was remarkable similarity among the volunteers, with the lucky people always being in the right place at the right time, while the unlucky volunteers experienced one disaster after another.

I asked everyone to keep diaries, complete personality tests and take part in experiments. The results revealed that luck is not a magical ability or the result of random chance. Nor are people born lucky or unlucky.

Instead, lucky and unlucky people create much of their good and bad luck by the way they think and behave. For example, in one study we asked our volunteers to look through a newspaper and count the number of photographs in it. However, we didn’t tell them that we had placed two lucky opportunities in the newspaper. The first opportunity was a half-page advert clearly stating: “STOP COUNTING. THERE ARE 43 PHOTOGRAPHS IN THIS NEWSPAPER.” While a second advert later on said: “TELL THE EXPERIMENTER YOU’VE SEEN THIS AND WIN £150.”

The lucky people tended to be very relaxed, more likely to see the bigger picture, and so quickly spotted these opportunities. In contrast, the unlucky people tended to be very anxious, more focused on detail, and so missed the advertisments. Without realising it, both groups had created their own good and bad fortune.

Eventually we uncovered four key psychological principles at work in lucky people:

1. They create and notice opportunities by building a strong social network, developing a relaxed attitude to life, and being open to change.

2. They tend to often listen to their intuition and act quickly. In contrast, unlucky people tend to overanalyse situations and are afraid to act.

3. They are confident that the future will be bright, and these expectations become self-fulfilling prophecies because they help motivate lucky people to try even when the odds are against them. Unlucky people are sure that they will fail and so often give up before they have begun.

4. They are highly resilient, and keep going in the face of failure and learn from past mistakes. Unlucky people get dragged down by the smallest of problems and take responsibility for events outside of their control.

In a second phase of the project, I wanted to discover whether it was possible to change people’s luck. I asked a group of 200 volunteers to incorporate the four key principles into their lives by thinking and behaving like a lucky person. The results were remarkable. Within a few months around two-thirds of the group became happier, healthier and more successful in their careers.

Lucky people tend to be very relaxed, more likely to see the bigger picture

But is it possible to use these techniques to win the lottery? Unfortunately not. Lotteries are purely chance events, and no amount of wishful thinking will influence your chances of success. However, the good news is that being lucky in your personal life and career is far more important than winning the lottery.

Oh, and one last tip. If you are feeling bad about never hitting the jackpot, spare a thought for Maureen Wilcox who, in 1980, bought tickets for both the Massachusetts lottery and the Rhode Island lottery. Incredibly Maureen managed to choose the winning numbers for both lotteries. Unfortunately her Massachusetts numbers won the Rhode Island lottery and her Rhode Island numbers won the Massachusetts lottery. She didn’t win a penny.

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What does the rich value the most
What does the rich value the most
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NEW YORK (MainStreet) — For wealthy Americans, money isn’t the most important thing in their lives, but it is in the top five. In fact, it’s so important that the parents of wealthy families are going to wait quite a while before they let the kids know just how deep the parental pockets are. Seems the kids simply can’t handle it quite yet.

A U.S. Trust survey of 640 high-net-worth adults with investable assets of $3 millionor more reveals money takes a third-place priority in the lives of the rich. Health is number one. Family comes second.

Yet, even though family and money are so important, nearly two-thirds of high-net-worth parents have disclosed little or nothing about their wealth to their children. And it may be some time before the truth comes out. About half of the parents surveyed don’t think their children will be mature enough to know all about the family’s wealth until they are between the ages of 25 and 34. Four in ten parents over the age of 70 will wait until the kids are at least 40.

“Family represents the greatest source of enjoyment in life… and yet we still see the survey saying that they don’t think the next generation is financially responsible enough to inherit what they’re going to have passed to them,” said Chris Heilmann, chief fiduciary executive at U.S. Trust.

Of course, life’s priorities shift with age. Three-quarters of those surveyed said that the older one grows, the more important health and family matters become. For younger adults – wealthy Millennials and Gen X-ers – building wealth and financial security are most important. In fact, the top priority for Millennials is doing meaningful work.

Having a purpose in life matters to those with means – and 75% of rich Americans say their life’s purpose would not change — even if they were to lose all of their wealth. Nearly all (86%) consider giving back to society essential or at least important, including more than one-half (54%) who consider it absolutely essential.

“I think what is encouraging about the survey is that it doesn’t matter whether you’re talking about Millennials or whether you’re talking about 75-year-olds, the theme of giving back or the theme of philanthropy… manifests itself by volunteer hours as well as using your financial resources. That’s encouraging,” Heilmann says.

But having a great deal of money does have its downside. Four in ten high-net-worth respondents said that they would have to give up some of their wealth to have a more fulfilling life. That answer begs a follow-up question, though apparently none was asked.

And can it be that great wealth comes at a price? More than half of the high-net-worth Millennials surveyed (53%) — far more than any other generation — admitted, “My wealth has come at the expense of my health.”

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